They say that very few of us are capable of original thought. We collect and sift our information as we go along. My philosophy has been collected in this manner. It has come from many sources, but it has become my own and I seek to live by it. If what I have written here has confirmed ideas within you and has significance to your life, then they become your concepts. I hope you will apply them and enjoy living by them as your own concepts.

I have endeavoured to present a path which could lead to personality success in the fields of emotional and social interaction. We have looked at some of the controlling forces in the human including the ruthless drive to live. We have looked at the universal law of reciprocity which governs relationships in all aspects of life, personal friendships, family and society. We have looked at egocentrism and how none of us ever does anything for nothing and how we are looking for some advantage for ourselves all the time. And we have looked at our socially inclined nature which drives us toward grooming and physical contact.

We discussed the importance of attitudes and how an enjoyment of life can be achieved by a change of attitudes. We have looked at the need to listen very carefully to what is going on deep within our feelings. We have endeavoured to discover the real person behind the facade of the apparent person. We talked about early conditioning and some of the lasting negative results of rejection by parents. The pressures experienced since early infancy which can lead to a lowered evaluation of ourselves as persons of worth. A lowering of our sense of dignity. We talked about the drive to self actualising and how we seek to preserve our wholeness of rationality by adjustment or escape.

I have explained my own views of domination, guilt, anger, jealousy, fear, blame, emotional debt and stress, and how I handle them to my own satisfaction. I have told you my thoughts on stimulation and the marriage relationship and how my wife and I make ours work for both our benefits. I have expressed the conviction that we are not servants of each other and have no right to act God to each other but are separate units walking together in harmony and mutual respect.

Most of all we have been talking about the real self underlying each unique individual and how that real self can be conscious of its own dignity and sense of personal worth. How awareness can bring fuller personal enjoyment of life and enhance our cultural inheritance.

In my experience an acceptance of these attitudes will result in a wish to direct our own lives in accordance with our deeper awareness. We will not be willing for any other person to dominate us or to act God to us- We will be our own person insisting on our own personal right as a separate identity to use our moral sense and judgement. We will, however, find that we can trust that real self to do the right and decent thing because we are also social beings by nature. There are two sides to this coin. The first side, a sense of my own personal worth, is valueless on its own and will not work socially without the second. The second side is that we will recognise that every other individual is also a dignity in his own right with personal worth, small children and the elderly included, so that what we claim for ourselves we will want to give to others. We will not want to dominate or act God to anyone else.

No amount of talking or reading can change a person into the kind of person he would like to be unless he is willing to change his attitude and give away some of the imposed ideas which have been held for perhaps a lifetime. You cannot change until you decide to examine yourself very carefully and rationally and make changes from within. It is more than just a willingness to change that is needed, it is a determination to live life in harmony with the real self. To become the managing director of your own life. This will have to be a continuing determined process but it leads to a relief of inner tension and to personal fulfillment. If we fail occasionally to live up to the concepts we have set for ourselves we should pick ourselves up and continue on. We never cease to grow and develop.

You will want to guard your own personal integrity fearlessly and relentlessly. You will need to establish your own personal sense of morality. Another person's morals will be none of your business unless they impinge directly on your life. any more than your standards will be any of their business. To live successfully you cannot afford to erode your own sense of dignity and personal direction. Each person needs to be true to himself in that inner territory.

The moral code you acquire will not be the legal or religious code which is imposed from the outside and offers conditional rewards but a real personal moral code based on your inherent social qualities as a reciprocating, caring human being.

You will not want to rob or cheat because your dignity is involved and to do so would lower your sense of personal worth. You will value good moral social standards in the society because such a society is to your benefit, and you will therefore wish to promote it. B,F. Skinner states, "We refrain from hurting other people, not because we know how it feels to be hurt, but (I) because hurting other members of the species reduces the chances that the species will survive, and (2) when we hurt others, we ourselves have been hurt."

Is it possible to change from the person you are, to the person you would like to be, the person you can respect and admire? Of course it is, I have experienced a dramatic change in my own life and witnessed the change in the lives of others. We are all human animals with a tremendous capacity for enjoyment and achievement during our short lives. Each of us would like to get the best possible from that life, but sad to say, many do not anywhere near attain the potential. Change does not come simply as a result of wishing, it comes as a result of a change of attitude and honest determination to live a fully balanced emotional and social life.

Experience leads me to place great importance on acceptance of the self as a person of worth. I am convinced that this is the threshold or turning point to enjoying a life of full personal satisfaction. So take heart, while a few hours reading cannot present anyone with a wonder drug type of solution, it can help one move toward the objective of becoming a complete personality.